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12/5/2016

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Hello, and thank you for reading our story!
​While on a recent business trip I (Nathan) was talking with a co-worker from Ypsilanti, Michigan about my son, Isaiah, painting and playing golf with Awakening Minds.  I was telling him how much he loves it and how it has helped him grow.  How he is learning so much more than painting skills.  How he has improved in so many areas.  My co-worker’s response;
“That is wonderful you have such place in your community.”  My sentiments exactly.

Isaiah was born on August 19, 2009.  His due date was originally the 24th of August but he was induced early due to his size. Originally he was schedule to be induced on the August 17th but the hospital was full so he had to wait.  When I first saw him, my thought was 'wow that’s a big baby!'  He tipped the scales at 9 lbs 15 oz.  
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As Isaiah grew he was hitting all his milestones and we were overjoyed. He crawled and walked right on schedule. He smiled and interacted with friends and family, people were always telling us what a content little boy he was. From early on, he showed a strong interest in numbers and letters. My wife Sarah begin working with him at his interest level. By 2 years old he was recognizing words, big words like Australia and Aquamarine, counting beyond 20, and knew all his upper and lowercase letters. Isaiah also was very drawn to music. He loved to listen to music on videos and he would very quickly learn to sing the songs sung to him. After we were told there were some concerns, I couldn’t help but look back to a few occurrences: Christmas when he was 2 years old when he played unprompted with a puzzle that had 6 different numbered door latches for an hour and a half straight.  I thought back to watching Isaiah play with blocks and how he would line them up very precisely over and over again. How no matter where we went, he would find the numbers and letters in the room and want only to play in that area.
In looking for confirmation that these occurrences were “just a phase”, I asked a friend who I knew had and child on the Autism spectrum what he thought and he said, “Ya maybe, does he play with other kids?”  “Sure” I said but I didn’t really know for sure.  I asked other friends from work who had older children but made sure to pose the questions in such a way that they would agree that He’s Typical.  I didn’t want to think anything but he’s just like any other kid.

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A word from Mom, Sarah
With Isaiah being our first kid, like Nathan said, we can look back now through pictures and memories and see signs, but for those first two years we saw nothing but milestones met, a generally content little boy, a little guy who delighted everyone around him and astonished us daily with how quickly he could learn new things. We were convinced on the way to his 2-year appointment that the doctor would be amazed. Instead the doctor expressed concern over the lack of vocalization Isaiah had and suggested we allow Help Me Grow to work with him. We thought surely this is just a small technicality, that he would start communicating well soon. And like Nathan said, we looked for reassurance from family and friends we spoke with that this was just a small hiccup. For the next several months, therapist came to our home to play and imagine and pretend. I didn’t see the value at the time in the pretend play and was still sure that this would be a silly story we would look back and laugh about later.
And then the spring before Isaiah turned three, his Help Me Grow therapists said the word …Autism. She pointed out signs and data based on the evaluations we had filled out and data they collected from working with him. My first thought was No…No, not my baby.
Jumping ahead a bit, a couple months ago I attending a training for parents of kids on the autism spectrum. There I met a woman who spoke of her recently diagnosis non-verbal 4-year-old daughter. This woman was angry. She was hurting and still a little in denial. I remember those days. I remember the days when I flat out refused to believe Isaiah had autism…I didn’t care how much data or how many signs were pointed out. No, not my child. I remember being angry. Angry at the doctor for suggesting I bring these people into my home for them just to find something wrong with my baby. Angry at the world that I thought would never accept my child with a label. Just incredibly angry. I remember times thinking I would fix it myself. I was his mom and I was the only person that could do it alone. I remember being jealous the first time his preschool teacher helped him overcome a task that he struggled with. I remember days when I didn’t want to talk to anyone. I didn’t want to run into family or friends. I didn’t want them to ask me how things were because I just didn’t want to talk about it. There are still days when that section of my momma heart doesn’t want to open up and share my precious special guy. But most days now are me openly accepting Isaiah has Autism. It’s not who he is and it’s not going to decide who he will become because God’s already got this.


So What Does Autism Look Like for Isaiah?​

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​·         Well for Isaiah it means a fixation on buttons and numbers. His preschool teacher had to cover up the calendar and take now posters or that’s all he would focus on.  He constantly wants to push the buttons on the microwave, CD players at home and school. 
·         It means his best friend is Curious George and he can recite entire scenes from Curious George shows and will especially do so when he doesn’t know the right words to say, which can be really confusing for the onlooker who is not familiar with him.
·         His bath starts with never wanting to get in and ends with never wanting to get out and use to include a multi-step routine which included lining up his foam numbers one by one until we reached 12 (Billion),345 (Million),678 (Thousand),900 and follow that up with a bedtime routine with about another 15 steps.  And if we miss a step it meant starting over.  And there were even times when we would have to leave his room at bedtime with him wailing because we missed a step but could figure out what. 
·         Potty training was getting him to count to 50 in order to get him to sit down and then not wanting to get up until he counted to 100, or 365, or 500.  And it means we are still working on potty training him at night and it might be a while.
·         Autism for Isaiah means we have a routine centered around his calendar every day. And if we forget before we leave in the morning, he will have a meltdown on the way to school.
·         It means no button down shirts without a lot of bribes and even then sometimes there is no wearing it.
·         It means we struggle to cut his hair, have him checked out by the doctor, to have his teeth checked by his dentist.
·         It means hand flapping and grunts of excitement and toe walking and items to chew to calm down.
·         It means gluten free and avoiding food dyes and I’m constantly watching how many carbs and sugars he eats because these will trigger a 24-48 hour “high” where he will struggle to sleep at night and be wired all day long. We don’t often try new foods or veer far from the 10 recipes he knows and loves. And sometimes, it means Isaiah is hungry or thirsty because he just doesn’t tell us.
·         It means that as much as he can read higher level texts, he may not actually be absorbing the information in it.
·         Autism for Isaiah means being in a public space is hard for the whole family because Isaiah might laugh at another child’s hurting, or blurt out inappropriate things, or cry because a noise like florescent light or a fuzzy baby will hurt his ears. Public spaces have other hazards too, like fire alarms to pull, automatic flush toilets and dryers, and dogs that might appear suddenly. In fact, I spent the evening here last night, taking photos of this space to write a story to try to prepare him for today.
·         It's now a given that at every social gathers or even large family gathers, at least one parent goes home frustrated and tired and wishing they would have just stayed home because it’s not a fun night when you’re the one responsible for managing the list of hazards and keeping him from injuring himself or other kids. And he is quick so it’s exhausting.
·         All of this makes finding baby sitters difficult to say the least. 
·         Autism for Isaiah means Painting Therapy, and Music Therapy, and Speech therapy, and being stuck with his brother for T-Ball and swim class instead of the older group because that is where he is socially and emotionally.
·         Autism for our family means
o   no cable, limited dining out, mom babysits extra kids, all to ensure therapy fits in the budget.
o   It means if other things arise that conflict with therapy or Isaiah’s hazards list, they likely won’t happen.
o   It means uprooting our lives and moving over the summer to make sure Isaiah is in the best possible environment for his unique learning style.
o   It means that Elijah gives up all TV watching rights when Isaiah gets home from school. And Elijah can’t play with the Short A sound learning game on his tablet when Isaiah’s home because the short a sound hurts Isaiah’s ears.
o   It means even if Elijah just made a new friend at the park, if Isaiah starts having a meltdown, we’re leaving immediately.
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​Thinking back to that woman I met at the training, I realized we will all face struggles in our lives and for us having faith in Christ, a peace and joy that is only from beyond ourselves is how we have been able to move thru that grief of hopes dashed, of dreams not fulfilled and to a place of peace and even finding joy in our struggle. For those of you looking for a way to understand families who have special kids, this is what I would say, think of a time when something so incredibly dear, a dream so close to your heart, was ripped away and of your own emotional journey through that.


As much as Autism is a struggle for Isaiah and our family there are some positives about Isaiah that will never cease to amaze me: Because of autism, Isaiah doesn’t lie. He lives in a black and white literal world. We are thankful because Isaiah does eat some vegetables and for the most part is a great sleeper. Isaiah also has Perfect Pitch. He hears the world in the music tones the sounds around him make. And Isaiah can sing and hearing him sing will be a dead-stop to my day because he sings like an angel and brings me so much joy to hear his voice.
With each passing day, with each time we press him to step out of his comfort zone, which each therapy session with Ms. Amy, Ms. Megan, Ms. Sarah, Ms. Kayla, with each hour spent with caring teachers like Ms. Dawn, Mrs. Weigand, Mrs. Brim, Mrs. Bunn, with each passing moment - Isaiah becomes a little bit less rigid, a little bit more flexible and accepting of our crazy demanding world.

 
A word from Dad, Nathan.
I have a theory: I know God does not make mistakes and many of these special people, while having delays in some areas, are gifted in others.  They are specialists! At work I am titled a Welding Specialist.  Isaiah is a Math, Reading, and Music Specialist. However, we need places like AMA to bring out those special gifts.  Our family thanks AMA and all of you who support such a valuable organization.
Thank you and God bless.

1 Comment
Carol Paino
4/5/2019 08:46:30 am

Thank you for posting this blog about your family. Never having autism effect anyone in my family, I did not understand how deeply it changes the lives of each family member. I admire how you are teaching others about it and helping us to understand in a small way. Your faith in God has been a strength that a lot of others don't have. I'm so glad you have that to sustain you. Prayers for continued success in Isaiah's growth.

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